I’ve pulled myself away from my blog for a few months now to reflect, recharge, gain clarity, and to feel like me again. I’ve always felt like that was an unacceptable thing to do because it would qualify me as a quitter. However, over the last few weeks I’ve learned so much about myself and the life that I want to live. I now know that taking a step back sometimes means that I am strong mentally, I know my limits, and can set boundaries for myself. I’m proud of that.
A friend of mine and a colleague reminded me in different ways how far appreciation goes. Words of affirmation, acts of service, and gifts are just three of the five love languages that Gary Chapman speaks about. But they have been the most noticeable ones I’ve seen over these last few weeks that are effective for the people around me. I was reminding my friend of how valued she is and how she as a mother is the glue that holds everything together including every little seemingly insignificant thing that allows her household to function. We are still new friends and I’m not 100% on what her primary love language is but it made me realize mine and how non-traditional it is. I love pouring into others. I love making other people feel good about themselves and I love giving people gifts. So, here is my holiday gift to those out there who might read this…
Dear Lovely Friend,
In the holiday season, it’s easy to give a gift, share a meal, or drinks. But this year, I want us all to share appreciation; self-appreciation, appreciation towards others, and love! Whether you’ve been a reader from the start or you’re starting here, it’s so important to look in the mirror and admire the work you do, the strength you exude, and the role model that you are.
To the ones longing to be with a loved one who now is in heaven, your strength is unmatched. Staying strong for yourself and others around you is hard, but you do it. The holidays can be a tough time for you but imagine them wrapping their arms and wings around you with the sweetest and longest embrace. I imagine that for you because I know that’s what God does in my moments of need. I pray that your heart heals a little more this year and you get to enjoy this holiday season with your loved ones on earth remembering and celebrating your loved ones in heaven.
To the one wishing and praying for a baby this year, you are worthy. Your heart is so pure and you’ve longed to share it with a tiny human for so long that it has consumed you. I see you. I cannot imagine the pain you have in your heart but I see your strength and consistency. In this final month of 2023, I pray that you find peace and happiness appreciating everything your body HAS done for you and the people you currently have in your life. Your time will come even if it’s not in the way or time that you want it.
To the one feeling unappreciated, overstimulated, and overworked, you are needed and valued. This last month of 2023, remember that you hold it down for your family. You give and give and give and maybe you don’t hear it enough but you’re doing a damn good job! Covered in puke, coffee stains, and glitter just like me… I see you girl! This is your reminder to appreciate yourself and the work you do to create peace within your household and family unit.
To the one dealing with change this year, change can be good. But it is hard. Sometimes change is for the better and we can’t see it yet. If it doesn’t feel like the right type of change, you have the ability to change it. Although this good change may feel uncomfortable, I’m willing to bet the reward will outweigh the pain of change.
To the one working on herself in a single season of life, you go girl! No man or woman can create your happiness. You have to find that for and within yourself, but you know that already. Take your time, learn about yourself, pamper yourself, grow your mind. When the time comes, your partner will be so hard to deny that God practically throws them at you.
Last but not least, to the one writing this letter.. Girl you are so worthy of self-care. The guilt you wear while taking care of yourself is not a badge of honor. It’s a stain to be removed. You deserve a break even if you feel you have too much to do to take one. In this season, find what fills you up and brings you joy. Continue taking stuff off your balance beam, delegating, and creating simplicity in your life. This next year, you are going in mentally clear, tough, and disciplined while giving yourself grace. No more comparison game
It’s been too long away and time passed and I didn’t realize it but man did I need it to get back on track, and that’s okay! I have no regrets. It feels good to be back. I can’t wait to grow together in 2024! Happy Holidays!
Together, we rise!
